I had a strong urge for some rum and raisin ice cream, so I zipped down to my local Jamaican market to pick up a pint.
Well, there was no rum raisin, so I looked or some grape nut. No grape nut! How about some sour sop, no sour sop! or mango! only cherry vanilla.
I called out to the store clerk who assured me that a delivery was slated for tomorrow.
Well, I was bent out of shape and gave him a piece of my mind. Before I blew my final gasket, I was interrupted by Guzu, you remember, the Yard Genie.
He tapped me on the shoulder and followed that with a restraining squeeze. “I know times are tough, but should you not be happy for this store that they are moving some products?”
“You are right” , I relented.
“You are not coping too well with the pressure of the times, are you?”
“I guess I need some help .”
“You have the choice of three roles. These are:”
The Victim is in constant “reactive” mode and avoids responsibility for his/her life, actions and results.
The Victim’s reactions are mostly “negative”
The Victim says… “It’s not fair.” “It’s not my fault.”
The Persecutor is mostly in “reactive” mode and points the finger and blames others for what’s going on in his/her life.
The Persecutor’s reactions are mostly “negative”
The Persecutor says… “It’s your fault.” “Look at what you’ve done.”
The Deliverer takes the initiative and is mostly in “proactive” mode and takes responsibility, ownership and control of his/her thoughts, actions and feelings.
The Deliverer is proactive and the actions are mostly “positive”
The Deliverer says… “There’s got to be a way.”
” So I have three questions for you.
Question #1: When faced with a challenge, what role are you choosing to play?
Question #2: Are your actions or reactions mostly negative, positive or neutral?
Question #3: How is your role, actions/reactions hurting or helping you?”
The last of the human freedoms is to choose one’s attitudes – Victor Frank.